So This is Love. . .
Our mission is to help you find, nurture, and celebrate the love you’ve always dreamed of! It looks easy in the movies, but in reality, it takes work to keep love alive. We’ve distilled the secret sauce of relationship counseling into simple, effective skills you can use in your own love life! (they’re really doable-seriously!)
Keep reading for our philosophy on romantic love and how we can help you experience more of it in your life!
Finding Love
We honor your deep desire to find love
We believe romantic love is a powerful and vital force. After all, we are hardwired to be known intimately (thanks science). You deserve a love that intentionally and passionately pursues you. A love that has the comfort of a friend but the desire of a lover. A love that feels like a safe place of retreat. This is grown-up love: to want the best for your partner and watch them flourish. We help you find this love faster and easier by applying the principles of psychology and the latest research on relationships.
We honor the enduring gift of self-love & its power in romantic relationships
While searching for love, it is natural to focus outward--scanning the horizon for the love that will free you from loneliness. Yet the paradox is this: Self love and acceptance frees you to fully receive the love you desire from others. From this solid foundation you will be better equipped to attract love that will treasure you and to weed out all that will not see you thrive. (P.S.: Self-love is a life-long and incremental journey—we’re talking about starting this journey, not perfection)
We encourage you to take time to truly get to know yourself in all your human glory--faults and all! For how can you instruct a lover if you have yet to connect to your own needs? This vital self-knowing will sustain you through every season of life (yes, even through the singles) and call you to live a full and fabulous life to honor yourself! If you’re currently single, or taking a ‘break’ from dating, let us act as your guides on this incredibly rich journey of self-love & discovery.
Nurturing Love
We believe everyone deserves to know the truth about happily ever after.
We push back on oversimplified, outdated, unrealistic pictures of love portrayed in our society. We also push back on the hush-hush code of silence that pressures us into portraying picture perfect relationship on the outside, no matter if we’re struggling at home.
But the truth is: Real couples fight. Real couples struggle. Real couples go through rough patches. Life happens and it can be hard. Having a healthy relationship does not mean you will never question it or feel unhappy. We help you recognize traits of a healthy real world romance. This way, your relationship won’t be crushed by unrealistic expectations it was never meant to bear. We dispel harmful myths, widen the idea of what your love story might look like, and provide a framework to help you separate fact from fairytale.
We recognize that satisfying relationships need to be created and cultivated.
You may fall in love, but you don’t just fall into a stellar relationship: it’s got to be created! Small gestures practiced often, can yield powerful results. These nourishing practices can even revive stale relationships and infuse hope into love that has grown cold. You don’t have to wait until there is a big problem to ‘work’ on your relationship. We teach you to apply these skills to create a vital foundation of love! Or revive the love you already have! Believe us--it’s so doable--step-by-step you’ll see the difference in your relationship!
We recognize that all relationships will struggle and need help at one point or another. You are not alone. This is par for the course. It’s just what happens when two people try to love each other through the challenges and changes of life. We have identified the most common struggle areas and offer a strategy for each. We turn the principles and researched techniques of psychology into blueprints you can apply to your unique situation. We help you and your partner turn towards each other to get your love back on track.
Celebrating Love
We believe that sustaining your love story takes a whole lot of everyday celebrating.
We cultivate a positive mindset about our relationships by celebrating the small wins along the way. Catch your partner doing good. Vocalize your gratitude unexpectedly. Make great memories and revisit them often. Be as proud of working on your relationship as the cute pics you post.
We want to pass on these love skills to the next generation and break down the stigma that has been associated with asking for help or working on your relationship. We provide an online community space that allows for this light-hearted celebration. A place where you can feel hopeful about your relationship and hear real talk about the work that’s required.
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